FIVE TIPS TO FIND THE PERFECT GUEST DRESS. #3 is the truest of them all!
When it comes to picking outfits for special life occasions, I sometimes wish there was a tinder app for dress picking where it then would magically appear in your closet after swiping right. I should probably patent that idea…
The hunt to find THE dress is almost as stressful as picking the chicken or the salmon at the reception or even accepting the fact that you probably don’t have a plus one.
Last August, one of my childhood friends sent out the “Save The Date” for his wedding and as soon as my RSVP was confirmed, the search for the dress was on. Since I hadn’t seen my group of high school classmates in 2 years, it was time to pull all the stops for the ultimate “glow-up“. (The last time we were all together was not pretty. I used to wear floral print leggings with combat boots.) Countless boutiques and various chain stores later, the dress was found. Luckily for me, I found my dress in March- five months before the wedding. But for a few of my friends, the last-minuters, the search was tedious and consisted of MANY comfort food runs and a lot of side-tracked shopping. Though they both found beautiful dresses, the selection was very scarce. Not to mention with the college kid fund, for us to find something that fast without breaking the bank was nothing short of a miracle.
So, after the wedding, I began thinking of tips I could give to anyone going to a wedding soon and how they can achieve the ultimate “glow-up” without losing their ish.
- Start looking at LEAST TWO months before – or at least once you find out about it.
Finding the perfect dress takes time and looking a few months earlier will allow yourself to not stress out when it comes to time and money. Looking earlier also allows you to “gently browse” while you shop for other things because the truth is you never find what you are looking for when you are actually looking for it. Also, this will allow you to scope out the trends you don’t like and you want to avoid; saving you time in the dressing room. If you do end up buying it early, keep in mind that depending on the dress color, print, and fabric, last minute shoppers won’t end up with the same dress as you.
2. If you “kinda” like the dress or you’re 90% sure you like it- buy it.
Because I’ve learned, “Nothing haunts you like the things you didn’t buy”. And man, do I have so many ghosts right now… Plus, you can keep the tags and the receipts. Most places you can return it if you find something else.
3. Be open to options!
FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS THAT ARE GOOD. BE OPEN TO OPTIONS. I can’t tell you how many times working in retail that I have had people tell me they hate some color or cut then them try it on and love it. Try that purple dress, honey. Try that jumpsuit. Embrace yourself. PLS & THANK YOU… I’ll leave the rest to Shia.
4. If you don’t have enough time to adjust it – don’t buy it.
If there is something wrong with the dress, like it’s a little loose or the straps keep falling off of you or it’s too tight and you tell yourself that you have 2 weeks to loose a lot of weight for that dress, Please don’t buy it. COMFORT IS KEY. There is nothing more satisfying than sitting down after that food baby and knowing that you’re not going to have to suck in your stomach in for every picture after that. Even though you still might.
5. Lastly, Remember wedding attire etiquette…
Look to see whether it is a white tie, black tie, or semi-formal wedding (the Knot has the low down here). Don’t out-dress the bride, avoid a bright fire-truck red, and the most obvious, DO NOT WEAR WHITE. If the dress is 50% white, don’t do it. If the dress is 25% white, don’t do it. If it’s 5% white, I still wouldn’t risk it. Just stay away from white. Wine can spill on it anyway.
THIS IS WHAT I WORE:
Dress: Love Culture This isn’t the same dress but it is equally as gorgeous!
Shoes: Olivia Ferguson
Make Up: Pauline Aguiar ( She’s Awesome! )
Dress: Steps NYC (Red Dress)
Shoes : Steve Madden